7 Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship
Whether you're in a relationship or super single and searching for love, this blog will reveal 7 key characteristics of a healthy relationship. Before meeting my husband, my idea of a "healthy relationship" came from romcoms and limited examples.
Here's what I wish someone had told me while I was dating:
“Chased love, is not love. If you have to run after it, talk it into staying, remind it of your value, fight alone for the both of you, issue ultimatums, or test it, it’s not love! It’s not love, it’s not happiness, it’s not fair, it’s not healthy, the only thing it is, it’s a waste of your time.”
Healthy relationships are about strong trust.
You may think strong trust in a relationship is obvious, but many women struggle to leave when trust is broken. I am not just talking about a partner who is honest and truthful. True trust means being with someone who always gives you the benefit of the doubt. Misunderstandings happen, but partners in healthy relationships view each other's actions positively. This mindset can prevent a lot of conflict and frustration before it starts.
You have a supportive partner and are supportive of your partner.
Being supportive can come in many forms but at its core, it means a partnership where you both encourage each other's growth and are there during challenging times. A supportive partner encourages you to be the best version of yourself and urges you to make decisions that are in your best interest, even if it is not exactly what they want you to do.
Open communication is the foundation of a relationship.
When there is open communication both parties are communicating effectively and transparently without fearing judgment or that an argument will result. Feeling understood and heard in your relationship creates a sense of security and comfort which is the foundation of intimacy.
Balancing your time alone is just as important as your time together.
In a new relationship, it's easy to get wrapped up in each other and forget about your pre-relationship life. Balance is key—don't neglect what's important to you. Encourage each other to spend time with family and friends. Having your own interests is healthy and gives you more to share when you're together.
Common goals and values are crucial to a long-term partnership.
Having common goals and values helps you to stay aligned and work towards a shared future, in areas such as life aspirations, family, and finances. Think of values as your guiding principles in the relationship. They shape how you and your partner treat each other, make decisions, and envision your future together.
Words and actions have to align.
When someone's words and actions align, it's a game-changer. If they're playing with your emotions, their words won't match their actions, leading to confusion.
Dating someone whose words and actions are consistent is eye-opening. It helps you understand why past relationships left you confused and didn’t work out.
Mutual respect is the key to conflict resolution.
In a balanced relationship, both partners have a voice and share decision-making equally. Disagreements are resolved healthily, without blame, shame, or aggression, and both partners are willing to compromise and find solutions together.
Knowing whether your current relationship is right for you can be difficult. I have included some helpful journal questions below you can also submit a question.
If you’re struggling to decide what is important to you in a relationship, download my free guide here.
Questions to Journal On.
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Does your partner respect you and your individuality?
Do you and your partner have an equal say in decisions?
Does your partner consult with you before making major life decisions?
Does your partner respect your needs?
Does your partner pressure you into making certain decisions?
Does your partner get upset if you spend time with your friends?
Does your partner view all of your actions in a negative light?
When conflict appears in your relationship, does your partner give you a safe space to share your feelings without fear?
